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People have different strategy of communication it also depends in culture they have. We can adjust our communication strategies to move toward or away from others by changing our communication behavior. We are using two strategies when we are communicating and it really affect our communication because people are different some want to be move toward from others or adopting you r communication behavior in such a way to become similar to another person which is convergence and we also have divergence which communication strategy of accentuating the differences between you and another person. It’s better for me to use the convergence strategy to become closer to others and make better understanding. If I talk to someone who I know I’m the one that should adjust my communication strategy I do as much as I can especially when I’m talking with old persons and children. Some of old person are deaf so it’s better to adjust m y communication to be loudly and slowly for them to easy to get and explain. I remember when my friend from other country having vacation here in our country while we are wandering we have conversation .She was more on speaking english than filipino so I cannot avoid myself to stop talking with her and to pretend that I’m busy in cell phone (texting) and looking for anything .This is just my style to stop talking with her uncomfortable. Yes, I am uncomfortable talking with her because she was using different language and different accent not just american accent. It’s very hard for me to understand her especially to her pronunciations while speaking fast and muted.I always asked her to repeat what she said. I just think that time to finish our conversation. Every time she asked m e I just always favorable and agree with her so no other conversation for us and topic to open but she was really talkative. She noticed that I’m uncomfortable talking with her so she‘s the one adjusting the communication strategy from divergence to convergence. Instead of talking with me with her natural way of communication she makes her speaking slowly and every time she asked if I get her point and if I understand her about the certain topic we have. There is also change with my communication behavior that time which I should speak english too even its hard for me especially when you are fronted the persons speaking to you . I feel tense and sometimes speechless but she makes easy for me by explaining this words, something like that. When you are uncomfortable with person together with you, I think you really don’t have a good conversation even explaining but at the middle of our conversation I feel good and comfortable even I think I’m speaking wrong grammar at least she knows it just don’t know in first. Sometimes I change my communication behavior by talking with her similarly. We know that we avoid accentuating the difference between her and me.

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People have different strategy of communication it also depends in culture they have. We can adjust our communication strategies to move toward or away from others by changing our communication behavior. We are using two strategies when we are communicating and it really affect our communication because people are different some want to be move toward from others or adopting you r communication behavior in such a way to become similar to another person which is convergence and we also have divergence which communication strategy of accentuating the differences between you and another person. It’s better for me to use the convergence strategy to become closer to others and make better understanding. If I talk to someone who I know I’m the one that should adjust my communication strategy I do as much as I can especially when I’m talking with old persons and children. Some of old person are deaf so it’s better to adjust m y communication to be loudly and slowly for them to easy to get and explain. I remember when my friend from other country having vacation here in our country while we are wandering we have conversation .She was more on speaking english than filipino so I cannot avoid myself to stop talking with her and to pretend that I’m busy in cell phone (texting) and looking for anything .This is just my style to stop talking with her uncomfortable. Yes, I am uncomfortable talking with her because she was using different language and different accent not just american accent. It’s very hard for me to understand her especially to her pronunciations while speaking fast and muted.I always asked her to repeat what she said. I just think that time to finish our conversation. Every time she asked m e I just always favorable and agree with her so no other conversation for us and topic to open but she was really talkative. She noticed that I’m uncomfortable talking with her so she‘s the one adjusting the communication strategy from divergence to convergence. Instead of talking with me with her natural way of communication she makes her speaking slowly and every time she asked if I get her point and if I understand her about the certain topic we have. There is also change with my communication behavior that time which I should speak english too even its hard for me especially when you are fronted the persons speaking to you . I feel tense and sometimes speechless but she makes easy for me by explaining this words, something like that. When you are uncomfortable with person together with you, I think you really don’t have a good conversation even explaining but at the middle of our conversation I feel good and comfortable even I think I’m speaking wrong grammar at least she knows it just don’t know in first. Sometimes I change my communication behavior by talking with her similarly. We know that we avoid accentuating the difference between her and me.

What is the important things I learned in communication?
I’m thankful to my instructor that I learned a lot about communication especially the thirty two theorist of communication that we tackle in the whole semester. It is very important for me to learned and knows every theory because those theory can applied in our everyday life especially when we are communicating.  Communication is always use in our everyday life without it we can’t share or explore our thoughts, ideas and feelings. Without it we can’t understand each other and the most important without communication we can’t live. After I learned about the theorist of communication I become more observable and curious in our society and the way of communication of others. I am now applying what I have learned about this. This is not just a communication that we know just to talk with others but behind this there is some theoretical basis on those communications. I make my communication more effective than before.

McLuhan saw the role of communication in all forms of media, from the beginnings of print to the technological age. Media Ecology is not what is actually being said, implied or shown. The basis is the selection of the media used to communicate the message. Using different communication technologies social environment and different personal are created.

According to McLuhan technology is the human inventions that enhance communication and example of this invention that makes us communicate is by the use of social networking sites such as Facebook, tweeter,Instagram and other social networking sites the best way to communicate to each other wherever you are. It is not cost compared using cellphone load and other communication devices. Facebook is the number one social networking site that is use by people worldwide to different purposes like to share your feelings and thoughts you can also share your picture and some happy moments in your life but mainly is to use for communicating. This is just free compared using cellphone load to keep in touch with your friends, special someone, family, relatives and some other contacts in every place even in other country. Using this also you can interact people face to face instead using some other devices to communicate. It s really makes communication easy going and faster which is good for us but behind those things we encountered some negative effects of using social networking sites when it not use properly we may involve in such cyber bullying, cyber sex and being narcissistic which promote individualism instead of advancement bond communities together but it can be socialized people even you don’t know and meet new friends. Using those sites people also can bond together but inside the new world of social networking sites.

Social networking sites such as Facebook is really helpful for me to communicate easier. Especially when I contacted my friend in other country and make us cam to cam to talk with when we are bored. I can use this also to text by using chickalites on Facebook which is free 30 text messages. Using Facebook I can easy to know new updates about my families in province and in other country. Our generation was really amazing new invention and technologies for communication was made.

Effective Group and Public Communications

When I was in grade school my adviser chose me to be the one of the master of ceremony in certain event. I gave speech in front of my fellow student, teachers and parents. While they waiting the programs started I made some strategy like using metaphor to the participants of event on how they look like to their costume to make them entertain and interesting but when I did some interview to the participants which is scripted they made bored, some not listen and made noise. It rejected the audiences because it seems planned and lack of delivered and style which is not effective to the listener it not made them convinced or persuade. Naturalness is persuasive according to Aristotle canon of rhetoric in delivery. Yes, I am agree because when it planned it’s noticeable and not really persuasive and you just make yourself harder. I trying to make myself as an effective speaker so I used some rhetoric words but before I do not know what is called in this but now that I learned I know that it is rhetoric a kind of art in speaking and writing an exact term in what I did before. In my speech it is different to what I learned in rhetoric of Aristotle. According to him raised rhetoric to a science by systematically exploring the effects of the speaker, the speech and the audience. He regarded the speaker’s use of knowledge as an art. I said that it is differ because I cannot explored myself as I am just the way we planned and scripted but somehow I explored my speaking little arts it persuade the audience but it not delivered naturalness. This is just my first time so I not blame myself instead I am glad that I experience to be master of ceremony and there is some positive comments. In dramatism of Burkes every people open their mouth to communicate is described as drama. I really agree too that if there is no identification no persuasion and there is some similarity when I interview the participants in this event some had similarity on my personality. I never forget that one of the participant has similarity on me because of her physical characteristics and some of our belief. Not just because of that but I as a speaker and fellow students as audiences it had a big impact of identification we have because we experience the same being students and some of the attitudes and beliefs on how we regulate school and discipline teachers. In narrative paradigm of Fisher it is different having speech in front because according to what I understand it looks like compelling of story and every event or happenings happen is considered a story. I noticed that the three theories rhetoric, dramatism and narrative paradigm is all persuading the audience and it is a new effective tip making a good speaker and speech.

During my high school most of the groupings I chose leader because some knows that I am responsible according also to my adviser. I am not intelligent but I am a diligent student . I always handle conflicts and problems because most of the group members cannot participate. Being leader I responsible in all works of the group even it is unfair. It should be our group works as one so it should work all of the member’s .Some members having conflicts to me because of misunderstanding about the planned. So I should I improve my communication by utilizing four functions which are problem analysis which u should know the problem and take every opinions of the members. Second is the goal setting, it is how your procedure of planned achieved the goal. It also use the identification of alternatives which ensure the quality of decision making and it gives some techniques to do so. Lastly, the evaluation of positives and negatives before making final decision. It can result in a high quality of decision. I improved also my communication within my group by utilizing fantasy themes because we can share interpretation that is creative and imaginative which is chain out within the group and it is essential to response a content of dramatizing message of the members.

Cultural approach is likely to embody my future career which is different things to different people because I want to learned different cultures while I have my companionship with others. I want the position of the managerial because it control and decide some strategy instead of being employee just having participation and involvement that is free expression of ideas but no voice and without democracy in work place.

Interpersonal Communication Theories are Essential in Every Relations

The interpersonal communication can be helpful and important to us to build closeness and its might be lead to build relationship because interpersonal communication is the exchanging of information involving two or more individuals. Interpersonal communication is very important elements in relationships. In my own relationships with my friends, parents and some other person that I met it is very essential for me to communicate interpersonal. More time to each other is also more friendship or more relations became strong and build .

I remember when I was in grade school, I’m nearness in bullying. My first experience was when I’m in grade school. During our recess time I was fall my money into the ground I claiming it to my classmate because he got it but he didn’t back it. I told it to my mom and to my teacher but he denied and he also added that I intentionally pricked his eye which is not true and of course they not believed because they really know who I am but of course to be equal my teacher asked me about that. To confess it of my classmate my teacher made a planned which is approaching him very well and talk to him like his mother that result in a positive way than to make mad. I’m just admire how the teacher approached their students that is like parents that’s why my first ambition is started that I want to be a teacher someday. When I was I child I always be a teacher in our playing “teacher-teacheran”. I really have my students that are my fellow children in our place which I invited them to joined this play. I remember that I had 7 students in this play and we do this every day which is supported with my mother so we can do it in our house just for fun. My one close friend is also a teacher in this play which is my classmate during grade five until we graduated in high school. I met her first before the school started, it’s a vacation. They transfer to the apartment near our house. We became friends and while the days goes by, our relationship as friend was grown that some of secret and her true colors was appeared. This is the time that we are in the process of reciprocity that is give and take or I openness to her that leads also to her. I’ll tell my secrets and she tells her too.She was kind at first. She always invited me in their house and one time she invited me to take dinner in their house and early in the morning she visited me to start playing and sometimes to talk with. I also remember we do assignment together and sometimes she asked a requested to me to do her assignment and teach her. She also visited me after school just only to say some news about her private relationship. I’m just listening and sometimes leave a comment which she make more comfortable according to her. I know that those sharing with each other like what he keeps to others that I found and her secret about a certain topic like her personal relationship was surely remain as secret even one day we became enemy. It all start in her natural attitude being “pintasera” and envy. All that she observable physically and mentally and all of your moves especially if it is funny she all noticed and starting of bullying. She is analytic person when it comes in negative way of person especially in physical appearance that is like a perfectionist person. One time she tried me to disparage, of course I don’t want somebody underestimated me especially she is not really good in academic study just only have their beauty: perfect eyes, nose, lips, teeth and smooth white skin but when it comes to their attitude and in study nothing to say. Some of our classmate won’t her especially in her attitude. One group of our classmate made a motto to her that “what is beauty if the brain is empty.” I know they do that just because of impatient to her attitude and I really understand that because I try it how she treated me. This is how some of my classmates judge her that I think rejection or just acceptable on her. This is the most bullying that I had which I admitted to myself that not all time I’m strong and brave. I am also weak and can cry in front of my classmates just because I cannot resist my tears. It’s happened in the certain topic which is envy with my friends because I have many friends that approached to me than her. She did plan to break the friendship that I had in our classroom. She said fictitious words. She reversed me by saying that I’m the one who fight her and physically hit her which is not true but my friends believe on her that’s why the reason I wondering why they not approached me not like before because I’m the one they think that is bad. After the classes I found out this all but still not proven to my friends that I didn’t do to fight that girl. So I decided to confronted her after classes but she only bullying me by saying some words that really hurt me like I’m pity because no one believe on me and by teasing me that I have big eyes which is she has not me but I’m just cried when she trying me to hit physically. I’m crying while I’m in the way home but she followed me to comfort and approach to not cry because I know she’s scared when I tell it to my mother and when some of the neighbors saying that she make me cry. After she approached me I said that it’s ok just not to do again. Before I step to come inside our house I organized myself. I wipe my tears just like normal. I don’t want my mom know this. I keep this because I know that she didn’t do this again. But the next day when I’m cleaning in our classroom she bullying me again she pulled my hairs and start teasing me. In that time I cried, I said to her that I told that to my mother but she answered me that she doesn’t care. I keep it all to my mother because I don’t want to think that I am wrong and I am bad. This is the time that I had second thought, to tell or to keep. I feel that they can’t understand me if I said.I didn’t come to school for few days I feel that I can’t overcome all. I realized all from started that she needed me if she has something requested  like to do her assignment but at the end she bully me so that I judge her negatively. One morning my auntie come to our house to told to my mom that I fight my friend as her grandchild told to her which is my classmate. I heard that they talked about me and I try to hide myself in cabinet but my mom called me and confronted me  and I said that I can’t do that. That she reversed me in every one of my classmates. I feel my mom did not convinced to believe but I didn’t care. When the days goes by, my friend visited me in house but I didn’t approached her I didn’t talked to her ,I never invited her to come inside our house and I didn’t confronted her which is result in a negative way that is my mistake. In that situation I am the one who sees bad that’s why they not convinced and they judge me being bad. This is the time I feel alone that no one supported and believe on me even my friends, parents, and sisters but of course at the end they believe on me. Mom made planned this is to talked with my friend that is result in a positive way because she was asking for sorry and until we graduated we still friends even I didn’t change her attitude but somehow she learned.

It’s shown that the interpersonal communication is very essential to use and understand people in different ways. It’s shown how to build friendships and how it breakdowns but at the end having communication interpersonal its build again. It reflects also some interpersonal communication theories I learned to my instructor that may lead to me being a better communicator.